Soooooo…about the unannounced hiatus I took. I’m sorry. I didn’t mean to fall off the face of the blogosphere. I didn’t realize anyone was really reading my blog yet, and I went in to full shut down mode to get through our move. I even took Instagram off of my phone a couple of times. (I know, right?!)
I took some time, focused on the constant chaos that is moving, and started working intensively with a new coach. Our move is complete, and we are working on getting immersed in our new community. The boys have started school, and I am home-schooling Elianah for preschool. I have to back track a little…
We were scheduled to move mid-June, which became end of June. Even with all the time we had, moving was *EPIC*. I hadn’t realized exactly how rooted we’d gotten in the Willow Glen house. I will always love that house, and still wish we’d had a chance to buy it. I also respect that San Jose is not ever where I wanted to stay, and owning a home there would have cemented me there indefinitely.
Moving with young children is always an undertaking. I moved with my ex several times when D was young, but this was my first move with TWO kids and TWO dogs. Right before our move, Einstein started peeing blood and Emma got a demodex diagnosis. When it rains, eh? After a TON (read:expensive) of medical tests and two vet opinions, Einstein’s official diagnosis is cancer. He has a mass in his bladder. It is in an “ok” area for surgery but due to his age we are opting not to remove it. Right now, he is happy and not in obvious pain, so we want to keep him in that space. His new vet (I absolutely LOVE her, Dr Tammy Abraham at Harbor Vet in Santa Cruz) changed his medication to an NSAID that has shown possible tumor reduction in many patients. So, we’re trying it. Emma’s hair is growing back in the spaces where she had the demodex, and she is growing exponentially.
Now for the two legged kids.
Deylan went back and forth between excitement and fear before we moved. He had spent a long time in that house, and wasn’t sure about moving. He was also really excited to live closer to the beach and make new friends since some of his close friends were going to different schools anyway. He was with my ex when we did the major move, and then he came home and set up his room. Now every day, and every day since we got here, I hear, “Can we go to the beach?” I’m telling you, this kid would live at the beach if he could. As a tween, he wants to be DOING all the time. Skate park, surfing, go, go, go.
Elianah had a bit more trouble adjusting. She only knew the Willow Glen house, and for the first two weeks kept asking to “Go Home”. Even now, two months later, she asks, “What is this place?” and “Why are we in this house now?” She is fully potty trained and asks me every day to go to school. I had to wean her before we left San Jose, I had some issues with nursing that lead to force-weaning (yes, I tried. I tried *everything*). I wasn’t ready, she wasn’t ready, and it will definitely go down in my regrets folder. She still likes to cuddle for comfort and to sleep, which is fine with me, as this time is so short.
My husband and I have weathered our first move together, which was hard. We have very different styles of organization. Let’s be honest, we have different styles of a lot of things. Our work ethics are both strong, so we had that in our corner. As couples do, we learned a lot about each other during the time between my resignation and now. My numbness and strong emotions for the first several months had a big impact on us, and the stress of the move was intense for us both. Through a lot of grace and laughter, we have emerged victorious, and I thank God for my husband daily.
During my time away, I did a lot of self-reflection and work. I’ve been working with life coaches since I resigned, and have come a long way. My first coach, David Gibson, is a great motivator who is awesome at inspiring people. He helped me do the work to get through the numbness.At the end of my time with David, I was offered a free call with another coach, who I instantly connected with. Her name is Paula Jenkins and she has helped me move through some major blocks. I cannot recommend working with a coach highly enough. I have my “why” and am moving forward in to the “how” thanks to both of them, especially Paula as she has helped me really unpack some deep emotional stuff.
Once we got mostly unpacked, I researched new churches/temples/places of worship, and have one we’ll be visiting this weekend that I hope will be a good fit. Something I don’t talk about much in public is my faith and spirituality, which are central to who and how I navigate the world. While I tend to be anti-organized religion because of the drama that comes when people get together in the name of God/Goddess/Allah/*insert preferred name here*, I also really need some community. My belief in God is deep and strong, and I need to find somewhere to nurture and grow it. I tend to stick out in religious communities as I blindly follow nothing. Here’s to hoping I can find a place that I fit enough to feel good, but that still challenges me to grow.
OH! Lest I forget, I also received an offer to be an affiliate while I was on hiatus, which…completely blew me away. I missed the chance, so I won’t mention the company, but I felt good about the offer and look forward to entertaining more in the future.
Well, there you go. The digest version of my summer. What did you do? How was your summer? Leave a comment and tell me about it!!!
Up soon: a cheap way to impress your friends when you have them over for coffee!